Hot Moms?
I admit it - I was deathly afraid of becoming a “Mom” which to me at the time meant a lifetime of stretch pants and oversized t-shirts. Of course now that I am a couple years into this new adventure and have dropped the pregnancy pounds I realize that I have a desire to be a “hot” Mom. I assume that wanting to feel and be attractive to youself and the outside world is a pretty universal human condition. When you’re a Mom though there are a whole other set of expectations and judgements that are placed on you by society. My experience has been that Mothers are judged more harshly and held to a higher standard than non-Moms.
If I want to wear a sexy dress or bare my legs in public I actually have the conscious thought, especially if my boys are with me, that people will be judging me and thinking that I should be dressed more like a Mom (whatever that really means). I don’t want to sacrifice my own identity as that is pretty much the only thing I am able to choose not to sacrifice. I think all of us Moms should remember that we are first WOMEN with beauty and grace and an earthly dignity that is God-given. The truth in all of this is what really surprised me: that after two kids and a little gray hair I still feel sexy.
June 21st, 2007 at 7:21 pm
I say don’t worry about what other moms think, dress and act how you are comfortable. There is nothing wrong with a hot mom, I would know. : )
June 21st, 2007 at 10:51 pm
I found my self-esteem and body image to be BETTER after having a kid. It’s hard to explain - it’s not that I don’t care, but well, I DON’T CARE. Oh sure, I try to dress nicely and such, but I am doing it for myself. I also found that now that I am a SAHM, my casual wardrobe is BETTER than before because I don’t have to split my budget between work vs. casual. Odd.
June 22nd, 2007 at 9:05 am
Yes - I think there’s some strange kind of automatic confidence that came along with being a Mom.