Sibling Rivalry
From time to time we encounter a person in our life that no matter what we do they are jealous and resentful. . It can be as juvenile as the size of your waist to the man or woman you marry. But there are times it be a constant reminder of your childhood and how much you dislike that person. And if you met this person on the street you would have nothing to do with them at all.
This can be devastating if that person is a sibling. How can a sister or brother want the worst for their own sibling…? Sad as it seems there are families like that, and that’s when it’s best to ignore them completely or just try and keep your mouth shut to avoid conflict. When sibling relationships go sour it can really cut like a knife.
If it were an associate or friend you could disengage yourself from that person all together and break all ties , but we can’t choose our siblings or extended family. It’s easy to break ties with extended relatives and it’s best to do that early before the relationship becomes toxic. When they become more of a liability than an asset to your mental well-being than its time to break the tie.
If the sibling is causing more grief in your life than comfort you should avoid them at all costs. It’s easier said than done if parents are involved. If the sibling does not have your best interest at heart and if they are sinister and is causing harm to your immediate family you have no choose. Here are some tips to consider before throwing in the towel.
Tips to follow before you bash your siblings head in…
•Don’t compare the looks and qualities of yourself with your sibling or their spouse to the looks and qualities of your sibling’s spouse
•Avoid comparing occupations or money or your spouse’s occupation to that of your siblings or your sibling’s spouse
•Don’t respond to siblings’ attempts to hook you into competing
•Develop your own standard of success, and then focus on that instead of your sibling’s standard. When you stop comparing yourself to your siblings’ measuring stick, you will eventually feel proud of your own accomplishments
•Don’t compete over the number of children each of you has–and whose has more grandchildren
•Don’t compare children’s success or failures
•Most of all-mind your own dam business
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